A common maxim amongst the Yoruba race is that there is no way a man will walk without his head shaking. A simple explanation of the intent of those who utter this short saying is that as human beings, we are liable to making mistakes at some point in our lives. We will do some things that only after perpetration would we realize how wrong it actually is. Some people have posited that our mistakes make us stronger. But this assertion will only be correct if we learn from the mistakes, be careful of them and avoid whatever can lead us to future recurrence.
Even when everyone knows that anyone can fall short, not everybody can spare people who wrong them or mess their work up. They treat the erring person as though he has never done anything good before. Even when the person has obviously worked tirelessly to achieve a goal but fail, they say negative words that can spur anger or throw up a fight. These kinds of persons never teach people a lesson; they only laugh at other person’s errors. They complain like they’re perfect beings even though their faults are all over them. To ensure that one maintains patience and meekness, one needs to learn a few stuffs about negative remarks and how to deal with them.
First thing you should understand is that not every time that a fault surfaces that you have to blame it on yourself; it is not your fault every time. Do not allow people to make you hate yourself. If you’ve done your own part and still end up having loopholes, take it as fate. Stand and then fight again. People may call you names like looser, don’t let this discourage you from fighting on. Ask yourself what these castigators have achieved. If they are not better than you are; little of what they say to you should move you.
Second, always pay attention to details. When people blame you for your mistakes, hear what they say out really carefully. Who knows, the solution you need may just be in their complaints and aspersions. Instead of feeling guilty, angry or disappointed; listen to the heavy words and make corrections from there.
Also, always re-evaluate. Plot your graphs again and change your plans. From what people say you’ll learn;
What you should have done
What you should do
What should not do
Finally, after people have visited you with blame, always thank them. Bring positivity out of their negative remarks. Let them feel maturity in you; they have come to make you stronger so let them realize. But don’t let them leave till you give your statement of assurance. Let them have your word that things are changing soon. Show them you can’t afford to be embarrassed once more. And with this, you should be fine.
Secret Pen
