NO ONE WANTS A CLINGY PARTNER

 

scrollThe line between being a clingy lover and a caring one is very very thin, and most people end up with a clingy boyfriend/girlfriend without even realising it( it’s not like it written in bold letters on their forehead), but take it from me, a clingy partner is just not good.
And so I was arguing with one of my girlfriends (don’t get it twisted ayam very very straight o! Before you people start to give it another meaning o! ) she happens to be a very good arguer by the way. The topic of our argument was none other than guys (it’s not like as if guys are the only things we talk about o, but we really just can’t help ourselves). We really just wanted to cheer a friend up whose boyfriend never had time for her (can you imagine, the guy is always busy working hard to keep her stylish and she’s complaining, if I hear say I complain… loll) anyway I was supporting the motion that a boyfriend who doesn’t have time for you is better than a clingy boyfriend. Anyway, I lost in the argument but it was only because I wasn’t prepared for an argument of a lifetime but then, that girl is good, I don’t know why she didn’t study law. Anyway, now I’m prepared, so here it goes( I know I promised myself I wasn’t gonna write anything related to boy and girl this week, but I just couldn’t help myself, next week I promise to write on the political situation in the middle east or something related to the weather or climate sha) .
It really isn’t their fault; they really just can’t survive on their own or there are suffering from insecurity. One thing is very important in a relationship and I know y’all think its communication, but its space. You don’t need to choke your partner with phone calls and visits before you prove that you love them. Yes I know the love is doing you strong thing but does that mean you have to drop 20 missed calls on her phone just to tell her you miss her?
Yes I know guys like to feel needed, like the knight in shining armour kind of thing but once you start to need him to do everything for you then, you are already in the clingy zone my sis.
I know for sure that clingy partners are always suspicious of everything and anything and they constantly think you are cheating on them but really, having a clingy partner is like doing project defence everyday of your life, trust me if he or she wants to cheat on you, if you like cling to them like palm oil to beans, they will still cheat. You still don’t get my message? Here are a few signs that your partner is not only needy but clingy.
He/she is ‘ALWAYS’ around: yeah I know that everyone wants a partner that is always available but this dude or babe is practically around you all the time. S (he) is practically in your face at all times. He’s there when you finish your classes, he’s there when you go shopping (I like that one). He’s there when you are going to the saloon. She’s there when you are going to the game centre and even when you are going for football training. She probably even goes with you for your departmental excursion. They just can’t live without you (loll) that’s probably correct, but isn’t it just downright annoying?
He/she calls at all times: He/she always wants to talk to you, not because they have any important thing to say o, it’s because they want to hear you voice. (Bros, what happened to the voice you heard less than an hour ago?) she always wants to know your last seen on whatsapp, and god help you if you read her ping on BBM without replying or you are online without talking to her or you even take longer than necessary to reply his SMS . If I were you I’d think well before replying that question, else you might end up having a heated argument, when all you just want to do is sleep. Missed calls nko? If you manage to miss one call lasan, she’ll bombard you phone with 20 more missed calls and probably 4 messages on your face book account, not to ,mention constant pings as to why on earth you are not picking up her phone calls.
You are always on his/her DP. personally , I really don’t understand this craze about using your boyfriend or girlfriend as your display picture, but then who cares what I think , however when you land yourself a clingy partner, expect that you have become the centre of her world and your life becomes their only mission . Oh boy it’s all about you and so help you God if you don’t reciprocate their actions. It’s just not easy to keep up, being-clingyshe wants you t also use her as your DP and declare your love for her publicly and if you don’t, she do it for you and tag it in you in the pictures. And please whatever you do, don’t use another guy/ girls picture as DP o, even if it’s their birthday, else you should be ready for lots and lots of questioning.
Do you love me? ; That the constant question. A clingy partner need constant reassurance that you love him or her, since I am neither a psychologist nor a mind reader, I have no idea as to why the constant reminder that you do love them is necessary, I wonder what happens when you answer no. It might be somewhat cute at first but it later gets boring and completely annoying.
Relationships are beautiful when you handle it the right way (jeez, I’m sounding like a relationship expert). When one of the two people involved begins to show signs of clinginess, then the joyous experience turns into a headache that just won’t go away. Many people would just break up but then it doesn’t do any good. Have healthy relationship and don’t be a clinger.
Until next week, have a most beautiful week. Ciao.

 

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