Like we were warned every time we saw WWE in the television, they say: DON’T TRY THIS AT HOME. Same thing applies to Ladies and guys in the journey of marriage who believe and practice things they see in movies; they think it is that easy. I SAY EMPHATICALLY; IT DOESN’T WORK THAT WAY, a script writer wrote those roles he or she acted. YOU ARE THE SCRIPTWRITER OF YOUR OWN LIFE STORY, so take your time to read this fact unveiling episode. You shall find out that, DIRECTORS ALSO DIRECT THOSE ACTS YOU SEE IN MOVIES.
Funmilayo Bamgbose had just finished seeing a season film, titled: BOYS OVER FLOWERS. Almost immediately she finished the last episode, her blackberry curve 7 phone rang, she smiled, when she discovered it was her Fiancé, Ademulegun Adeola calling, she took her time to pick the call replying with an ecstatic‘‘HELLO”, “HOW WAS YOUR DAY?” The hoarse voice asked, he was already tired while he conversed with her. I WON’T BE ABLE TO COME AS PROMISED, he said with his voice fainting away, BUT I WILL MAKE IT UP TO YOU, he said pleading. He had worked all day. Oh! Oh! You have gone drinking again, that is why you want to cancel our date? Funmilayo replied nagging and threatening him. Once you failed to make this date, just forget about having a relationship with me, she threatened further. How on earth is that done? She concluded and dropped the call. He called back but she refused to pick up.
She had quickly forgotten that this was similar to the way she lost someone she deeply loved. She lost the first man she had ever loved, Moses, her course mate, who asked her out but she played the role of A DIFFICULT TO GET QUEEN. Despite the fact that she also loved him, she pretended all through. Of course, the young man had to move on; it was when he moved on, she started encouraging him. Now that she has gotten another good man, she is still acting those ideas she saw in movies, thinking she was doing the right thing, because protagonists in movies she saw acted that way and got what they wanted. She forgot that those actions were programmed. She forgot as well that the sweet nothing words used in them will have a great deal of flaws if practiced in real life.
There are many Men/Ladies like Funmilayo who treat their spouses anyhow; many of them think when they play hard on them, by doing stupid things, they are correcting their wrong doings, forgetting that no misunderstanding is settled by war, because those who start it cannot predict when it will end. Some even cry instead, feel bad or even quit, because they believe they have tried and it seems their much and laborious efforts are not being appreciated. Some make self fulfilling prophecies that they were created not to be loved, they believe they are MISFORTUNES, while others believe, the powers of LOVE is in their hands, so they can get any woman/ Man they desire. They have all forgotten that A GEM CANNOT BE POLISHED WITHOUT FRICTION; NOR MAN PERFECTED WITHOUT TRIALS.
As long as she continued to nag and fight over issues that never existed, she lost the young, handsome, dedicated, and self employed guy to a lady who deserved him better than she, Funmilayo did. It is true that it may be Funmilayo’s fiancé’s fault, yet her marital situation is reflective of some inner work that she has to do too; what I am sure about is, she will find herself in this situation again. How she could improve the situation would have been the best antidote for the pain she was experiencing in the union.
THE PSYCHOLOGIST HAS THIS TO SAY: Imagine you had a recurring stomach ache day after day. You could ignore it in order to avoid the inconvenience of going to the doctor, the cost of the prescription, and the discomfort of the colonoscopy. But the fact is that a recurring stomach ache is a sign of a health problem that needs your attention. And if you don’t give it your attention, it will end up being a bigger inconvenience, costing more money and causing you more pains. So, don t die in silence again, stop thinking what that your favorite actress did in that romantic movie will work for you, your own story is written by you, well understood by only you, so direct the lines yourself, because nobody understands the script more than you.
Know this today: A PROBLEM DOESN’T GO AWAY BECAUSE YOU RUN FROM IT; it gets worse and the eventual cost of dealing with it escalates. In fact you won’t get the result the actor of that movie where this kind of thing also occurred got, because there is a lot of film trick in what you saw.
To conclude: The worst pain comes from avoidance. The healing magic is attention. THE PROBLEMS IN YOUR LIFE ARE LIKE FINGERS POINTING TOWARD ANSWERS, they are transformation trying to take PAIN path, and until you allow them, you will only be relieved but not healed. AS YOU GO THROUGH THE MARRIAGE JOURNEY, WE SHALL SEE NEXT WEEK, TILL THEN I REMAIN YOUR MARITAL PSYCHOLOGIST INVIEW! IF YOU WANT A PRIVATE SESSION call or WHATSAPP FATOMILOLA ezekiel adewale. On (+2347066444111) ENSURE. YOU VISIT: www.MARITALPSYCHOLOGIST.WORDPRESS.COM.
