Many have walked the journey of life with much heartbreak; they haven’t been able to make anything out of diverse relationships they engaged in, they would rather conclude that men/women are wicked. They never for once searched within themselves what could be wrong with their fate as it never brought upon them marriage materials. Without much ado, this week’s episode is dedicated to your fashion life, how it affects your marital journey. Take a seat and put on your glasses as we journey through this mind blowing write up.
Adebisi Adebanji, 28 years old African cultured damsel, she just finished from the premier university with 6.4 cgpa, life in school as an undergraduate was the best ever, five days of every week was school time, the remaining two days were for fun. Her dressing style was usually nude, cleavages were either exposed or the buttocks improperly covered, she had been severally abused by neighbours and aliens, the worst of all was her inability to keep a relationship, even when she was due for marriage. Instead of the type of men she always wanted in her life, she kept on having the ‘‘BADDEST ONES’’ around. She thought at some point during her final year that UI guys are not the right choice of men to marry; she even experienced more evil when she left school than when she was an undergraduate. It was very late for her to realize that THE WAY SHE DRESSED MADE MEN ADDRESS HER AS A SEX MACHINE! Trust men, she got more than she bargained for. Only the leg that wears the shoe will know where it pinches. You may not understand the hardship many girls of such lifestyle face in getting the type of men they want until you find yourself in their position. Some people at some point even gave up in tying the knot giving in to fornications and all sort of sexual anomalies. Some will even tell you, if asked, that they prefer freedom they derive as singles to sharing their life with any selfish being. This is simply because they have been jilted and betrayed. They have failed to uproot the tree of evil in their marital lives, instead they beheaded it, leaving it to time and of course it grew again, they concluded that there is no remedy for their encountered problem. In this African setting that we find ourselves, dressing responsibly is one of our customs and we derive pride in them. You will hardly see a society in Nigeria that embraces immoral dressing. As a matter of Nigerian culture, wearing only pants on the street by an adult is tantamount to psychosis, not to talk of wearing such to a formal gathering. It is a western culture which is being adopted by developing countries but the aftermath of its adoption is vices such as RAPE, MOLESTATION, ATTRACTION OF BAD COMPANIES and so on.
Taking it up from there, an adage says BIRDS OF THE SAME FEATHER FLOCK TOGETHER. No sane mind should expect a responsible and an African cultured mind to call her and present a marriage proposal if her cleavages her exposed and her back sides also made public, such a person in the Nigerian cultural context is not different from a sex workers who works on street of Allen Avenue, area of Lagos and that is usually at dusk. If she is lucky to be called and talked in or be loved, he will end up being used and dumped her in the process. Don’t go for looks they can deceive, don’t go for beauty they will fade away, find someone who is confident and highly self esteemed. Someone who will not dress naked because she wants to impress a guy/girl or do what is immoral because he/she doesn’t want to lose someone not worth of marrying, someone with a high self efficacy and believes she is UNLIMITED. If a guy loves you, your natural and simple beauty will notify him because in the eyes of the beholder lies beauty, but a soul that dresses to impress will end up being depressed because what you don’t have you can’t give. The psychologist is reminding you ahead of days to your marriage, because one day you will definitely commence that journey of marriage except you are a EUNUCH that is when you will find it difficult to think of marriage when the time comes. As you prepare for the marital journey, live a life you want your future husband/wife to live. Only a right mind attracts the other, but a right man who falls in love with a harlot will end up blaming himself because the way he married her is the same way SHE WILL BE MARRIED OFF BY SOMEONE ELSE. As time ticks, embrace a high self esteem, dress politely and anticipate a long lasting positive union. YOURS IN THE MARRIAGE JOURNEY!
I REMAIN YOUR MARITAL PSYCHOLOGIST IN VIEW! EZEKIEL ADEWALE. F.
