They want to be loved and have a heart that fools around, they need serious relationships but still at the level of discovering what it takes to be loved. They have created diverse problem due to their inability to play a sincere partner role in every relationship they had, many of them finally found their ways into marriage but found it hard to do away with INFIDELITY. PETER DEVRIES SAID: “We fall in love with a personality, but we must live with a character.”
Welcome aboard as we venture into the secrets of CHEATS in relationships
Chinua Benjamin, top class mainstream Journalist, sound in news reporting, and a guru in INVESTIGATIVE JOURNALISM. The laurels he bagged are synonymous to the numbers of women in his world. He had stopped playing the role of a philanderer since he got married to Chioma Anigboso, this is because he met her virgin and felt the best way to appreciate her was to play safe but all his efforts proved abortive because the more he tried the more problems his marriage faced. Although Chioma knew he womanizes but she thought he would change after marriage, as against what she predicted, things got out of hand.
Benjamin went to an international press conference in NEW YORK, he stumbled on one of his erstwhile girlfriends, they exchange cards and agreed to meet at the bar in a hotel where Benjamin lodged, the aftermath of the meeting was an uncontrolled sexual urged that led to extra marital affair with this Journalist. Chioma, Ben’s wife who had missed her husband during his trip to U.S requested for sex immediately he came back. Benjamin, who always had his check up at least twice in a month, was told he is an HIV carrier; he was quickly treated but had no guts of telling his wife to go for the same check up. He kept this to himself and had her become HIV/AIDS positive, this was discovered after many months when she went for ante natal tests, they discovered Chioma was HIV/AIDS positive, someone who never had sex with any man all her life except Benjamin and yet she was HIV/AIDS negative. Where then, was the problem coming from?
When Benjamin discovered this he was mad at her, furious and almost quitted the union but the help of the Family Psychologist got the union back to its feet but the SENSE OF TRUST has been stolen. Of course A THIEF ALWAYS THINKS EVERYBODY IS A THIEF, he then thought his wife had been cheating on him. But Chioma despite the sorrow she was experiencing she struggled within herself and wanted to know how she came in contact with this DEADLY DISEASE , she went to the family hospital, requested for the husband’s medical test reports and discovered Benjamin had once been diagnosed with HIV some couple of months back after his U.S.A trip, it was his intercourse with that lady he came in contact with this virus, he never made attempt to visit the hospital for medical checkup or medical purification, he went ahead to sleep with his wife, Chioma without protection as he did it with the ex girl friend he met in New York. Not only did the union get dissolved the joy of the two individuals finally vanished, because Benjamin never stopped this addiction and Chioma, whose life had been battered by this same man who can’t tolerate her with the virus she is having, sent her packing because of his own selfish acts.
Infidelity is not something you should compromise if your to-be husband or wife struggles to deal with it, because an insincere boyfriend becomes an insincere husband. THE PSYCHOLOGIST HAS THESE TO SAY: It is not a fiction, because this happened to a reputable renowned Journalist who started this journey of a cheat little by little until it became an addiction for him, that if left, his life is at risk. In case you are a man or woman who is in a relationship with someone whose sexual life is tied to immediate gravitation, it is of a strong recommendation that you should flee without thinking twice because nothing good can come out of a possessed devil except you are ready for a doom, of which am sure you won’t like to bear a pain you never caused. In a nutshell, SWINDLERS are Cheats, makers of evil, who are gullible, and fixed at the ANAL stage of development according to Sigmund Freud, except you want your life to be a laboratory where relationship practical classes are conducted, if not take your shoes and flee. The Yoruba say: ‘‘Abo oro la nso fun omo luwabi’’ A word is enough for the wise.
AS YOU GO THROUGH THE MARRIAGE JOURNEY, WE SHALL SEE NEXT WEEK, TILL THEN, I REMAIN YOUR MARITAL PSYCHOLOGIST IN VIEW!
