This is my heart cry to those who jump into conclusion almost always. Most of us are very fond of taking a situation and drawing conclusions on what we see on the outside. We refuse to consider other reasons the situation must have turned out like that, we, Ladies are especially fond of that.
The fact that a girl you know walked past you without saying hi, automatically means she is beefing or avoiding you. Why didn’t just make excuses for her and believe that she was lost in thought or was simply in a hurry with her mind focused on her destination? No, that won’t do, the other girl has to look bad. And if she happens to do it more than once, oh no! She is done for; you go about telling everyone around that she’s a snub.
That doesn’t apply to you? Let me give another example. You saw your boyfriend give a ride to a girl more than once, without asking questions or investigating, you just conclude that your boo is cheating with her. Let me make this worse, this same girl was the one who seemingly ‘snubbed’ your roomie several times. Then you both conclude that she’s a b*tch, and end up embarrassing the ‘husband snatching’.
What happens next? It’s your second year anniversary with your boo, the same day u intend to break up with ‘le boo’ because you have a strong suspicion he is cheating. He comes to pick you up, and then takes you to this really cool and romantic spot e.g. Rhapsody’s. And before anything, he tells you he has a confession to make, at this point you are about to jump again and tell him you know what he has to say, but you decide to hold your peace this time and listen. So, he goes about telling you how he intended to break up with you months back, because he felt the relationship was boring, but he got expert advice and therapy sessions from a female friend of his who taught him not to give up on his relationship for flimsy reasons. And that, he’s happy he listened to her because he has only fallen more in love with and has gotten to respect your person. You then find out that the snub is you relationship’s saviour.
OMG! What a shocker! She is not a b*tch after all, but the deed has been done you’ve already accused her of snatching your boo. And now you’re bothered about how to mend the situation? Don’t you think this would have been avoided, if your friend had just assumed that the girl didn’t see her, and if you had just asked your boyfriend about the girl…
The point is this, before drawing your conclusion look deeper into the situation, do not take by face value. A wrong conclusion could sometimes turn out to be an abyss of confusion, once you jump into it, you face the consequences. In essence before JUMPING in to conclusion, take a closer look and save yourself a lot of trouble.
‘Dewe
